I've been deliberating for a few days about where I was going to put this post but actually I think it belongs here rather than my more "littles" blog.
As most of you are aware I lost my mother a while back leaving Dad and Myself as surviving household members, other immediate siblings being in relationships apart from us.
Dad has some mobility problems coming through the impact of cancer on his kidneys making its way into breathing apart from sciatica and likes to visit Mom's grave where whilst cremated there lies a headstone a couple of miles away.
Unexpectedly my younger brothers wife rung following her much delayed operation for Carpal Tunnel and he spoke with her and in the course of which he asked if they, the next time they were going could take him to the grave.
They would have to past the turning to us to get to it from where they live and she agreed with dad saying should they want a quiet moment then he'd step away.
Come Sunday, they turn up and indeed they do take him but he only finds they elect to stay in the car while he goes down a pathway rather than all walking with them pausing near the adjacent church.
They also reject any and all attempts to open a conversation about where he'd been, how they find it, or even ask him how he was feeling afterwards.
It was as if they just wouldn't speak to him as his sons father and a fellow family member even on the face of it another fellow human being where many of us just would even to those we don't know well.
We have empathy and yet there was none showing leaving him feeling he was being deliberately ignored.
He was very emotional upon his return to which I got the full blast of -and although I could use not being the sole dumping ground of his emotions you couldn't help wondering just what my brother and wife were really playing at treating him more like ghost.
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